During one of my sessions last week I had another beautiful experience that may actually be beneficial to all of us as people. We’re all on our own personal road in life in varying stages on those paths, but regardless of where we are there are some truths can apply to us at any point on our journeys.
This is a story based on a person’s private session. As per my policy on confidentiality, I never share information from my session that I did not get express permission to share. This information is for educational purposes and meant to enrich the lives of all those who feel it’s gravity.
This session was a past life regression. To some of us it may seem extraordinary to have contact with a former incarnation in our soul’s journey, but for others it’s just a part of the information they have to work with in their lives.
Often times, when this information comes up for us, it is meant to show us something, teach us a lesson, or impart some crucial wisdom that we once had that would really serve us in our present lives. To this end, I generally recommend that if someone is haunted by something they believe to be a past life memory, it may be in their best interest to take a look around and see what unfolds.
The client had been struggling with some very intense feelings that were typically triggered by being in places that were steeped in history. Feelings that were tied to no actual memory would come up for them whenever they were in certain places. There seemed to be several places that held this quality for the client. After trying a couple different methods we decided it would be best to go with a specific place and focus more directly on one of the experiences.
Once we got the client to make contact with the life that so wanted their attention, I allowed some space for them to get acquainted with this place, this time. To try to get to know their former self. We focused on the clothing that was worn, where they were in the world, and most importantly, what their life was like.
Once we got settled into the journey I asked the client, “What is it that your former self needs you to know right now? What do you need, that your former self once had?”
The client replied, “Peace.”
This message was about peace, but it wasn’t as simple as that. as we continued to explore this life I asked the client, “What is it that you have in this life that gives you such peace?”
The client replied, “I have a locket with a painting of a loved one inside. I have a memory of a home that awaits me. I have the things I need to protect myself and those I care for.”
That’s just it. Life can be so simple. We have all of these things that we think we need to keep moving through our lives. We take up new tasks, and those tasks come with other tasks, and we just keep doing these things to the point of absolute exhaustion and we never have time to spend doing the things we love with those we care about. We never take time to nurture ourselves by spending time with those things that we’re doing all of this for.
The client’s present life experience is quite chaotic, with lots of uncertainties, many things that are contributing to feelings of uneasiness. There are all these parameters, that occur in all our lives these days, that are constantly calling for our attention. We are always being drug away here or there, and we are well meaning, we are trying to do our best by our families, our friends, our co-workers, but what are we losing in all of this?
So what can we do in our present experience to try to enrich and deepen the bonds we have with those we are closest with? We all work so hard to provide for our families and those we love, but by the time we actually have time to enjoy these bonds we seem to have little left to give. There never seems to be enough time to give these relationships the time that they need, or do we?
Could we find ways to make room in our lives to focus our attention on bringing more love and beauty into the world? Are there perhaps some places we are spending our energy that are not needed? Are there some situations in our lives that we are giving of ourselves that do not serve us in any way? If we are always giving of ourselves in places that do not serve us, then who in our lives are losing?
So maybe the next time some person in our lives dumps their entire bag of emotional anguish on us, consider the value of your time. Consider that there are people in your life who need that time more than a person who lives on the periphery. It’s kind to lend your time or your ear to someone in need, but think of the time cost. Is this taking from time you could be spending making your home a place where love can grow? Is this taking time from you teaching your children an important lesson? Is this time you could be spending connecting with your spouse and remembering the things that brought you together?
Also if we are always so busy tending the troubles of another person, how is that teaching them to manage these things themselves? I have given a lot of advice in my life. So many times have these people come back to me with the same exact problem, or one very similar. I could continue to offer them the same or similar advice, and 100% of the time they will be back again with the same problem. If instead of giving advice on another person’s life, could we ask them instead “what action steps can you take to change this for yourself?”.
You don’t need to shut out people in need in order to live more simply, but you can change the way that you respond to it. It’s okay to be present and show up for people who need help, but send them away with something they can do to change the circumstances of their lives. You can help someone without getting involved in their lives. These are the lives of other people, not yours! So don’t create unnecessary codependency with people. It’s not your responsibility to make choices for other people, but we can empower them to make more effective choices for themselves.
It seems that in our present era of constant notifications, devices and people who are demanding our attention at all hours, could it be in our best interest to free ourselves from those demands. To take the time back that we are giving away, and use that time and energy to tend our own personal gardens. A thing that we have forgotten in our present time is to live simply. To let go of the things that are not bringing the qualities to our lives that we desire. To focus on enhancing the relationships that enrich our lives. To spend our energies on the things we love, that make us happy, in an effort to grow those things and bring more of that into our lives.
So if we are living a life where we are not experiencing blissful moments of peace, maybe we have invited things into our lives that rob us of that experience. I think we all could take some more time to tend our gardens, to remove the things from our experience that take life from us, and focus more attention on the things that give us life.
Life can be such a complex experience if we allow it to be, but at the end of the day we always have the choice to change that. Are there ways in your life that you can find to free yourself of chaos and find the joy in simplicity? If you were to focus on this, think of how different your life could be in a week, in a month, or an entire year of simplifying your life and enriching the things that bring value into your life.
The way to peace is to live a life of simplicity, to focus on only the things that bring you a greater sense of joy and fulfillment. I think that if we want to turn the tide of our busy lives we all could focus more time on the things that bring us back to an era of simplicity. It all begins with one small step, making different choices, taking the power back from the situations that we have allowed to take us away from our sense of peace. What can you do today to bring you closer to peace?
Nightwing Healing Arts 